Can someone tell my husband that I'm not crazy?
Or, better yet, tell him that I am, and that he just has to deal?
We had a really nice lunch. We were talking about options and next steps and how we handle things from here on out. We were being productive.
Then he says, "Well, how are you going to react if my sister gets pregnant before we do?"
And it just shook the foundation of everything that I have been working so hard on. It rattled me to my core and now I just can't keep it together.
How am I going to react?
How am I going to fucking react?
I'm going to be furious. Not at her, but at the universe. I'm going to be angry in that always-a-bridesmaid-never-a-bride-and-fuck-you-for-not-dealing-with-infertility way. I'm going to want to smash things and scream at the Universe that I get to live through daily torture and she gets to get married and get knocked up right away. I'm going to hate the world more than I do now.
I'm going to hate the world more than I do now.
And that's awful. And I know it's awful and I feel like the worst person for even having thoughts about being mistreated or not having enough in life. I have everything I could want.
Except, you know, the one thing that I actually want.
She's older than I am. Substantially. She has had a rocky, on-and-off relationship with her not-quite-fiancé who will probably soon be her fiancé. She deserves to be happy just as much as everyone else does.
And knowing all of that, and knowing that life isn't fair, and knowing that things are hard and that I'm not special, I am still a sobbing mess because it just never occurred to me that that would happen. And now it almost seems like a certainty.
And I just can't.
Husband doesn't get it and keeps reminding me to find the positive and be thankful for what we have because he's going through it to and he's not getting enough support in it. And he's completely and totally right. I'm being totally selfish and self-serving and I can't hate everyone who gets good news while we continue to wait.
I mean, I shouldn't.
It's not stopping me though.
It's just where I am right now. And nothing seems to be getting me through it any faster. I'm sorry for that, and I'm sorry that it's not who you want me to be, but it's where I am right now. If I could be anywhere else, mentally or physically, I would be.
But this is where I am right now.
So, I guess I'll see you there.
As always, it's hip to be square, kids.